But most of these liaisons end up by causing heartache all round. The word ' affair ' covers everything from the briefest of sexual dalliances. The affair didn't continue for a month or so, but then it started up again, stronger . Its really sad that we as women we cause each other pain by allowing men to. Affair turns to love then to heartbreak. kept seeing each other, & I really felt bad for her, cause I knew she loved me but couldn't be with me.